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Ur loss, baby!


So, I’m having a baby. Which I’m very happy about. I have a little girl who is 8 and she has wanted a sibling for a while.

The difference this time is I will be doing it alone. Which is the sad part. I of course wanted to be in the situation where the father was there. But unfortunately after 4 years in a relationship with the man I am now pregnant by, I realized he doesn’t want to have responsibility and a family.

I’m not mad. I just figure it is his loss as I know that me and my unborn child are worth the love and happiness. Now I can only focus on the beautiful bundle of joy that awaits me in 6 months. And although things in life don’t go as you plan, I’m sure God will grant me the true family I desire in time.

I have to say, I am very appreciative of my mother as I go through this journey. She is very positive about the situation. I told her I’m going to be breaking the “curse” she put on her children. She had three kids and we all had only one child of our own. So I am the only one left to be able to have a child. So it is very exciting for us. I know this baby will be loved extremely.

So, I say to the father, it’s your loss!

 

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Life gives me writers block


Life gives me writers block. I don’t know how many blogs I’ve made and put my best foot forward to be the writer, the thought provoking illustrator of words I’ve always felt I could be. Then baam life hits! And then I lose my mind to say it truthfully.

My words disappear and life consumes me. I’ve felt eaten alive. Then somewhere I would give up. I gave up on me and my writing. I gave up on my dream to be what God put me in existence for, to be a voice, to show my skill, to put forth my ideals, my complex thoughts and structurally vivid dreams.

Given up is like an addiction. It’s so easy to do but so very hard to stop. I think after my sisters murder in 2007, given up on me became all to easy. And people would say well life goes on but life had truly stopped for me. Life existed but I was no longer apart of the world. I’ve been walking around detached, uninvolved and trying to find me but I had been really dissatisfied.

Dissatisfied with how cruel life is but people continue to love, give and appreciate. How can one go on when someone so dear is taken away. In such a horrendous way. I’ve been struggling with this question but then I look around me and I know I have to stop feeling sorry for myself.

My sister was not only taken from me but she was taken from her 14 year old son. Our mother and brother, and many friends and family members who adored her to pieces. My sister was loved and left this world loved. I think that is the best I will get from this tragedy.

Since that day on May 18, 2007. I’ve cocooned myself never wanting to be hurt like that again. Not by life, not by my mistakes, not by anyone. But in doing that I have only hurt myself and my sister. As I continue to shield myself from life, I only take away my chances of true happiness.

But that stops today. I’m grabbing a hold of what is stopping me, ME! I’m shaking myself back to consciousness and realizing my dreams, my worth, my desires, my goals. Oprah said it and many before her “Never give up.”

I’m going to take that advice as I have decided to move forward with my life. I’m shedding my shell and opening a new chapter. I vow to no longer let life take my writing away. I promise myself even when I am down I will find the strength to write another day. Writing brings me such relief and I should not turn myself away from that.

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If I had a dollar for every weiner scandal…


A hot dog.

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If I had a dollar for every politician who stuck his wiener down the wrong hole, I could afford to run myself.

Before a man is a politician, he is a man. Although we as Americans think that politicians are going to be these saint like, money-saving, for the people individuals. In the end there only out for themselves.

We have to be realistic. We can’t keep going against the current that the tide is pushing. For whatever reason these people run for office knowing they have these secrets they don’t want anybody to know about, then they lie when it comes out, then they apologize when evidence is shown. Then they beg and in the end we forgive them. Sounds like a relationship to me.

So I’m not taking up for the man, but sometimes I think people do things just so they can be caught, cause other wise they would keep doing it even though they know it’s wrong. Some people have to be forced to stop and one of the people is Weiner.

I mean months ago there was a Twitter group warning people about Weiner’s wiener.

To read more: Report: Twitter group warned girls about Weiner

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News: Ex-Boyfriend puts up Abortion Billboard.


In New Mexico a man bashes ex-girlfriend in her decision to have an abortion. Mr. Fultz, 35 years-old put up a billboard depicting him and a 2 month old baby. Words on the sign saying “”This Would Have Been A Picture Of My 2-Month Old Baby If The Mother Had Decided To Not KILL Our Child!”

The ex-girlfriend wants the sign down. They have taken it all the way to court. She feels the sign invades her privacy. Mr. Fultz feels it his right to free speech.

In my opinion is he has missed the big picture. The situation shouldn’t have found its way on a billboard. Now if we look a bit deeper, this situation has little to do with the abortion and more to do with communication.

Why, I must ask, if the abortion is true did the woman feel she needed to do it? I have great views on abortion. But I think in this situation you can clearly see that lack of communication. How does the billboard make the situation better? The baby is no longer and now they are in court.

Please, in this day and age can we find some common sense. Is nothing private?

Just to be fair, I understand the hurt that one must have when a baby is lost, but we must look within in ourselves to find why a situation like this might happen. So now that the billboard is up does the man think it will bring the baby back. I think it displays his lack of maturity and maybe an underlined reason why the woman decided to have an abortion.

I don’t think he will be having any babies soon.

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Im in coupon land.


My latest hobby of sorts is couponing. After watching Extreme Couponing, I decided I would have a go at. It’s not that it’s new to me I’m sure everybody has used a coupon or two in their lives.

Back in 2002 when I had my little girl and shopping for food became a necessity. I thought the idea of collecting coupons was the ideal thing for a parent to do, wise spending, calculated shopping and organized meal planning. I got me a coupon organizer and well I never used it.

I used to be on top of it back in the day being a stay at home mom and all. I had a monthly meal plan, a categorized grocery list and back then I had my palm pilot so I calculated everything down to the penny. But couponing didn’t play a roll. I wished I would have continued cause I know I would have saved.

So now I’m trying my hand at it again, the only problem is there is too much information on coupons out there. Not to say I don’t think abundance is bad, but come on here. There are a million websites for coupons that are pointless, sites leading you to the same link you had click on, a thousand video’s and articles.

This is what I’ve picked up thus far about couponing and it aint so easy.

1. Print out all store coupon policies (read an understand each one)

2. Purchase a box, coupon organizer, binder and card holder inserts

3. Stack your supply of coupons (from newspapers, printable coupons, email subscriptions, mail, family and friends, store blinkies, in-store coupons, etc

4.Learn the coupon language

5. Gather a few individuals to help you sort through the madness

6.Get your local grocery store ads every week

7. Sign up for store reward cards

8. Strategize your grocery list to coupons and sales

9. Spend hours going around gathering up all your savings and deals

Now this is what I’ve gathered and this list isn’t fun, but I’ve already started and I’m going to see what can be done about simplifying the list. They say once you get the hang of it, it’s easy. So far I’ve spent hours clicking on links, subscribing to product sites, printing and cutting coupons. And I’m still not understanding how exactly I’m going to be able to catch all the savings.

A list of coupon sites I’ve visited

Saving Star
Coupon Mom
Smart Source
Coupon Network
Coupons
Grocery Coupon Cart
Printable-coupons.blogspot.com
Mommy Saves Big

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